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One of the book’s most provocative contributions is the "Dependency Paradox." Levine argues against the Western cultural ideal of the "self-made" individual who needs no one. Instead, he asserts that the more effectively we can depend on one another, the more independent and daring we become in the outside world. When a partner provides a "secure base," the individual’s biological attachment system remains calm, freeing up mental energy for productivity and exploration. When that base is unstable—common in "anxious-avoidant" pairings—the brain remains in a state of low-level "fight or flight," hindering personal growth and emotional well-being. Furthermore,